Help! My Partner Says I'm Addicted to Stoned Sex!

We all piss off our significant others. Some make their partners mad by leaving their laundry on the floor. Stoners, on the other hand, do it with their incessant consumption of weed, and still others do it by insisting on being stoned for sex.

Toking up before sex is one the greatest things ever. Sure, messy, drunken sex is pretty stellar too, but many would argue that stoned sex is better than drunk sex.

let’s examine what the biological/neural difference between drunk sex and stoned sex is. When you’re a few drinks in, alcohol slows down thought processes and cognition, which is why you don’t give a single shit about anything.

However, the parts of your brain that control sexual urges remain untouched, therefore making you want to have sex with anyone with a pulse. Not too great.

Conversely, when you get high, the THC enters your bloodstream almost immediately, and researchers have found that THC stimulates testosterone production, and can increase testosterone levels by up to sex times. And that, my friends, is what makes you horny.

Combine that with the relaxing and mood-lifting effects of the stuff, and you have the perfect equation for a really, really good lay. You feel incredible, you're turned on, and you still have your wits about you.

But what if your partner doesn't agree?

In a relationship, how can you prove that you don't have a abusive relationship with cannabis?

And furthermore, is pot actually addictive? For all the couples out there currently squabbling about it, the issue is nuanced.

We throw around the word “addiction” a lot. But there's a scientific difference between dependency and addiction, according to Jordan Tishler, MD, a cannabis specialist from Harvard.

“Dependence is a physical or physiological process. If you use a substance, and your body gets used to that substance, then if you stop [using] the substance, you can have symptoms of withdrawal. That’s known to happen with cannabis, and I see it in my practice upon occasion. But it doesn’t happen very often.”

Dr. Tishler explained that the current literature estimates that cannabis users have about a 7 percent chance of developing withdrawal, which usually includes three to seven days of crankiness and insomnia.

Also, dependence isn’t always a bad thing. If you’re a medical marijuana patient who consumes daily to treat pain, anxiety, PTSD — whatever — under a doctor's supervision, it’s possible you’re dependent on cannabis. Guess why? It’s your fucking medicine. Most people who are prescribed antidepressants or anti-anxieties are probably dependent on their medicine, too.

But it’s generally acceptable in our society to medicate with pills. That’s why we don’t give them the same type of “addict” flack as cannabis users. And we shouldn't — that's harassment and mental health stigmatization.

If you’re a medical patient using cannabis as directed by your doctor and someone calls you an addict, you have every right to tell them to shove their head in a toilet and never call you again.

A survey conducted by Psychology Today found that marijuana does indeed act as an aphrodisiac among users — a finding that’s been supported by separate studies since.

A majority of respondents said smoking before sex helps enhance the experience. Of course, that’s not always the case. A minority of participants said smoking kills their libido. Others said it depends on the dose, the strain and their mood.

Remember, getting high is a gradual process. If you rush the process, you may end up getting more stoned than you want. So start small, and go slow.